The passage of time has not left any marks on her, but has instead made her more beautiful and captivating.
So, what’s the reason behind her charm?
Understanding Self-Love and Respecting One’s Feelings
“A person who brings joy to others must first be filled with joy themselves.”
A woman who understands self-love can fully respect her own feelings, fill her life with joy, and bravely love others.
57-year-old Aunt Su Min, like many traditional women, spent the first half of her life busy with family and social work.
She loved her children, loved her husband, and took care of her family, but her husband was not gentle and considerate, and all the expenses were split equally.
Su Min didn’t work and was often criticized by her husband, and even in daily life, she was often picked on by her husband over small things.
Her love and dedication to her family were taken for granted, and she received endless pain and loss in return.
So she decided to take a trip, drive alone, and explore the country, sharing food with fellow travelers and finding infinite satisfaction and healing in nature.
Originally, Su Min’s face was filled with sorrow, but now her eyes are gentle, and her face is calm.
Holding the steering wheel, she’s also grasping her own destiny, and her love is now directed towards herself.
Loving others may not get an equal response, but loving oneself is the best nourishment.
A person can only be fully respected and loved by others when they fully respect their own feelings, and can be carefree and happy.
“You see, I don’t plan to please you with my appearance. I don’t need your pity. I love the rusty scars on my body more than I love you.”
In the long journey of life, we will encounter many people, but they are all just passersby.
Not trying to please others, one can live freely; not caring about others’ opinions, life can be relaxed and free.
A woman who understands self-love, fully respects her own feelings, and becomes more and more gentle and captivating.
Having a Firm Core, Unaffected by Others
“Each person must have a firm core, so they won’t be blown away by the wind in the universe.”
A firm core is a person’s core beliefs, which largely determine how far they can go and how happy they can be.
Zhao Liying, when she first started out, was told she couldn’t play the lead because of her round face, but she didn’t believe it and didn’t give up.
After seven years of hard work, she finally got her big break in a TV series, but was then criticized for her drinking habits on a variety show.
But she didn’t stop, and eventually, her acting skills touched the hearts of millions of viewers, earning her widespread recognition and admiration.
All along, she has been walking her own path, unwavering and unaffected by external influences.
As time passes, her sparkle has not only been polished but also radiates a more relaxed and peaceful beauty.
A woman’s most vibrant beauty comes from within.
Outer beauty may fade with time, but the sparkle of the soul will always capture people’s hearts.
As Ali Smith wrote:
“True power is feeling something inside you that is bigger than your breath.”
True strength is not about blocking out others, but about listening to your own voice, being firm in your heart, and not being swayed by others’ desires.
For women, who doesn’t want to be liked by others, who doesn’t want to be recognized by others?
But in the face of a chaotic world, there’s something more important to pursue, and that’s your own heart.
Cultivating a firm core is the key to becoming strong and self-assured.
When a person becomes strong, beauty and gentleness are just natural consequences.
Economic Independence and Self-Respect
As Virginia Woolf wrote in “A Room of One’s Own”:
“A woman must have a room of her own, and money!”
These words from nearly a century ago still resonate today, and economic independence is crucial for women.
In the 2023 hit TV series “News Queen,” Zhang Jia Yan’s love life was perfect, and her boyfriend was successful and gentle.
But when her career hit rock bottom, her boyfriend wanted her to give up her job and return to being a housewife, and she chose to break free and pursue her career.
Many people criticized Zhang Jia Yan for not cherishing a good man, but others saw the essence and didn’t want to be a “good wife.”
There’s a saying:
“If love is a meal, a career is the bowl. You need to hold the bowl steady before you can savor the meal.”
In the end, economic independence is the foundation of a woman’s independence, and only by being self-sufficient can one earn respect and self-respect.
Simone de Beauvoir said:
“Women are only able to guarantee their concrete freedom through work.”
No matter how society develops, we must remember that only by being independent can we stand tall and earn respect.
Don’t get lost in the sweet trap, and remember that true freedom and respect come from one’s own strength and independence, not from relying on others.
Be self-sufficient, don’t be a decorative rose, and grow into a strong tree, and life will be smooth and beautiful, and beauty will flourish.
A Woman’s Journey in Life Is Not Easy.
Life is full of confusion and setbacks, and the dust of daily life can tarnish their beauty.
Those women who suddenly become beautiful, with gentle faces, are not because of expensive skincare products or meticulous maintenance.
Their beauty is the result of their courage and determination after experiencing life’s ups and downs.
They are strong and gentle, relaxed and peaceful.
May we all live our own lives, and be our own beautiful selves.