First love is a person you like without any distractions, a person you will always love no matter how long it takes. However, we try to avoid being the guy’s first love.
Do You Remember Why You Broke Up with Your First Love?
In the world of emotions, there’s a cruel rule: first loves often don’t last. Most people’s first loves end in regret.
No matter how passionate and sincere your love is, no matter how beautiful your future plans are, when the love train reaches the terminal, you have to say goodbye.
I still remember the winter when a boy from my neighborhood would pick me up from school. He would bring me hot buns from his school uniform, and they were still warm. The buns were hot, and they burned his skin inside his shirt, but they also warmed my heart.
To this day, I can’t forget!
We were young and naive, and we didn’t know what forever meant. We just felt happy seeing each other. I remember we were in the same class, and we would meet in the middle of the corridor every day after school. We thought we would be together forever. But two years later, our story ended. Our passionate and sincere love ended without a conclusion.
After I left my hometown, I knew you were with someone else. I didn’t blame you; I just wanted you to have someone who wouldn’t make you sad like I did. But I hated how you treated those few years we had together. Seven years have passed, and I’ve long forgotten you, but whenever I think of my youth, I think of you.
The restaurant where we didn’t get to eat together, the person who didn’t get to travel with me, are the things that make me the most nostalgic.
Loving each other is romantic and sweet, but breaking up is painful and unbearable.
This is first love, and this is the “post-trauma” left after it ends.
So, if possible, I hope you don’t become the guy’s first love, don’t become his first girlfriend.
I was 18, and he was 19 when we met. We broke up after three months, and 14 years later, he contacted me again. He still remembered the last time we met, and when he said I was his first love, we both had regrets, but we’re both married now, and I just hope we’re all doing well.
Don’t be the one who gives everything to nurture a sapling, only to have it shelter someone else from the wind and rain. Don’t sacrifice yourself, and don’t teach someone who doesn’t know how to love.
Instead, I selfishly hope you’re the one who reaps the benefits.
He’s gentle, mature, and has learned all the skills, and he’ll nurture you with true love.
What Are the Benefits of Being the Guy’s First Love?
Being the guy’s first love isn’t all bad.
For the first time, he’s passionate, proactive, and sincere. He’s brave and positive, and he’ll do everything for you.
You want security, and he’ll introduce you to his friends, and even set your photo as his phone wallpaper. Every time he goes out, he’ll report to you first, and he’ll share all his thoughts with you.
You want romance, and he’ll prepare birthday and Valentine’s Day gifts for you weeks in advance. To show his sincerity, he’ll even learn how to knit a scarf and bag for you.
You want a future, and he’ll start saving for your dreams from the first day you’re together. Every time he saves some money, he’ll show you the progress, and you’ll feel like a kid who’s done their homework and is waiting for praise.
He’s inexperienced in many things, but he’s willing to learn for you, to change for you. His clumsy but sincere attempts will touch your heart.
Watching him get up in the middle of the night to cook noodles for you, and waiting for the water to boil with his arms around you, you’ll imagine all the scenes of your future life together.
If everything goes smoothly, and you spend the rest of your life with this person, it’s not impossible. He should be the one I can trust my life with. I shouldn’t have misjudged him.
Time doesn’t speak, but it gives us an answer.
As time goes by, you start to realize that he’s good, but not good enough. He loves you, but he also does things that hurt you.
He’s passionate and proactive, but not stable or reliable. He’s romantic and dreamy, but once the novelty wears off, he becomes boring. He’s willing to do many things for you, but he often fails, and his efforts only make you more disappointed.
He doesn’t care about your feelings, and he can’t catch the subtle changes in your expressions. When you pretend to be okay, he believes you’re okay. When you’re angry and say you don’t want to talk, he really leaves.
He never knows how to give in, and he won’t admit defeat.
When you ask him about the future, he says he hasn’t thought about it, and he doesn’t want to think about it.
He always says it’s too early, and why bother thinking about it, let’s just enjoy the present.
This is what it’s like to be the guy’s first love.
The Sweetness in the Glass Shards: The First Love Journey of a Girl and Her Boyfriend
When you’re good to him, you feel like you’ve found a treasure.
When he can’t meet your expectations, and you’re disappointed, you hate him, and you want to tear him apart to see what’s inside.
Your love is real, your happiness is real, and the roses and kisses on Valentine’s Day are real. Your loss and sadness are also real, and the breakup is not fake.
Being the guy’s first love is not all happiness and dreams; it’s more about finding sweetness in the glass shards.
The Regret of First Love: The Loss and Expectation in the Growth of Love
My friend told me that after breaking up with her first love, her biggest regret wasn’t that he didn’t love her anymore, or why they broke up after four or five years of being together, or why they couldn’t continue their journey together.
Her biggest regret was that she had poured her heart and soul into nurturing a tree, only to have someone else take shelter under it.
When she thought about this, she felt like she couldn’t breathe.
She cried and told me that if she had known this, she wouldn’t have appeared in front of him so early. She would rather be the one who reaps the benefits, enjoying the person who has been trained by someone else, no matter who is in his heart.
Love is about the order of appearance, but sometimes appearing too early isn’t a good thing. Because life is long, and human memory is limited, people who appear early in our lives are often forgotten later on.
But who can predict and arrange the right time and place for a encounter? We don’t have a script for our lives, and fate lets us appear when we do.
Meeting you, loving you, are all coincidences, all fate.
Breaking up with you is also fate.
Being the guy’s first love might not have a happy ending. But it’s okay, people can’t be possessed, and having those moments is enough.
If everyone only wants to avoid the storm and enjoy the benefits, who will be the harbor, and who will water and fertilize the young trees?