Pursuing Supplemental Life Interest
Some men over fifty still seek extramarital affairs, perhaps because they want to find excitement and stimulation outside of marriage.
As they age, work pressure and family responsibilities can make life dull.
In such situations, seeking extramarital affairs may be seen as a way to escape reality and seek novelty.
For example, French writer Honoré de Balzac once said, “Marriage is a long-term punishment.”
This quote reflects some people’s distress and dissatisfaction with married life.
Therefore, some men may choose to seek affairs to fill the void in marriage and pursue supplemental life interest.
Seeking Affirmation of Self-Worth and Confidence
With age, some men may face challenges to their self-worth and confidence.
Having achieved certain success in family and career, they may crave external affirmation and praise, especially from the opposite sex.
Renowned psychologist Freud once said, “One of the most basic human impulses is the desire to be appreciated.”
Men over fifty, if they find themselves mainly seen as a husband and father at home and desire more appreciation and affirmation, they may seek extramarital affairs.
This behavior can make them feel attractive and charismatic, thereby boosting their confidence and self-worth.
Longing for Freedom and Independence
As men age, some may start yearning for more freedom and independence.
In marriage, they may feel constrained and restricted, so they seek affairs to experience a sense of freedom and indulgence.
American writer Mark Twain once said, “Marriage is an institution that constrains men’s actions.”
Some men over fifty may feel marriage brings constraints, thus desiring freedom and liberation through affairs.
They hope to find an unrestrained and unconstrained lifestyle in affairs, experiencing novelty and excitement.
Men over fifty seek extramarital affairs for various reasons, ultimately aiming for supplemental life interest, affirmation of self-worth and confidence, and a longing for freedom and independence.
However, regardless of the reason, affairs harm marriages and families.
Therefore, when facing such situations, men also need to seriously consider the impact of their actions on their families and marriages, while seeking healthier and more mature ways to meet their inner needs.
As British philosopher Russell said, “Love is a pursuit of eternal fantasy, while marriage is the mirror of reality.”
Let’s cherish marriage, and invest our precious time and energy in nurturing and maintaining our family relationships.