The person who makes you gentle surely gives you ultimate love;
The person who makes you silent surely gives you great harm;
The person who makes you irritable surely makes you feel wronged.
When a man truly loves a woman, she basks in the sunlight of a love river, the nourishment of love is the most precious and scarce beauty product, making her shine brightly.
When a man deceives a woman, she is restless and lingers in self-doubt and anxiety, like a withering rose losing its luster.
To distinguish whether a man truly loves you or just wants to play around, look at three aspects.
Love’s protagonist is always him
During a volunteer activity, I met Emily, a girl who rarely smiles.
She started her first love in her sophomore year, making vows and envisioning a beautiful future together.
But after some time, Emily noticed her boyfriend getting busier, always making excuses like overtime and gatherings when she tried to reach out to him. They didn’t completely cut off contact, and when her boyfriend was in the mood, he would suddenly show up, then disappear after satisfying his needs.
Finally, when Emily couldn’t take it anymore, her boyfriend casually said, “You’re not considerate enough, let’s break up.”
A man who truly loves you will make you feel secure and at ease because trust and respect are the foundation of love; without them, love cannot last.
A man who deceives you will prioritize his own happiness and satisfaction, as his intention is merely to play around for a short time, not caring about the feelings of his partner.
Therefore, in a lasting relationship, the protagonist will always be both individuals, as one cannot be missing.
In a relationship, a man certainly has his own career and friends, but he will manage his time reasonably, inform you proactively about his schedule, and promptly introduce you to the people around him, all aimed at providing you with enough security.
So, if you find yourself in a relationship where you feel uncertain and unsteady, where sweetness and oppression coexist, and everything is controlled by the other person without any explanation, then you should seriously consider whether it is true love or just a fleeting affair.
I really like this saying: “I won’t restrain you in the name of love; you can do whatever you want.
But I hope that before you do anything, you can think of me and reject some people and things for my sake. I hope that what we talk about is not just love but also trust, loyalty, companionship, challenges, and that we will never be apart.
He Only Cares About His Own Feelings
The ex-boyfriend didn’t love the girl very much; he was more interested in the new girlfriend who didn’t cross his bottom line—interests.
After years of hard work in a big city, the ex-boyfriend had a decent income, a house, and a car. He allowed his wife to use these but didn’t let her attempt to share them.
Therefore, when the new girlfriend asked to add her name to the property deed and requested his help for her relatives, she was doomed.
One could say that such a man, who had decent conditions, only loves women who don’t covet his wealth, or rather, he only cares about his own feelings and never considers whether it might harm his partner.
In his eyes, he has strong principles, and if a woman dares to step out of line, he will cut off the relationship without hesitation.
Therefore, he doesn’t love any woman; he only loves his money and interests.
However, even if such a man is not thinking long-term and is just testing the waters step by step, he will still rationalize the uncomfortable aspects to his partner through various excuses.
This is why, with a girl who has aspirations and depth, even after reconciliation, chaos ensues.
He Will Control Your Agreement with His Thoughts
The man who plays a quick romance differs greatly from the man who truly loves you, as he will be eager to control you, making you completely obedient to his desires.
Because “time is short and the task is heavy,” the quick romance man doesn’t have the patience for a deep connection. Therefore, he will try to persuade you from time to time, crossing your boundaries.
On the other hand, a man who truly loves you wants to spend the rest of his life with you, so he has enough patience and time to listen to you, understand you, sincerely work things out with you, and even change himself.
So, what does a man really think?
You can see if he genuinely accepts you or just uses respect as a guise to control you, imposing his thoughts on you, making you believe that loving him means giving yourself to him, being obedient, and making him happy.
Agree with a saying:
If being with someone stabilizes your emotions, makes you open up, more confident, happier, and curious to explore the world, then that person is worth loving.
Otherwise, just wave your hand and smoothly roll him out of your world.