Imagine having a boyfriend who feels more like a friend. There are no sweet surprises, no romantic flowers. He’s there, but you can’t feel his love. You search for traces of his love in his indifference, only to realize he doesn’t love you enough, he doesn’t prioritize you.
He only reaches out when he needs you. You try to share your daily life with him, but it’s like talking to a wall. Your emotions mean nothing to him. His lack of care makes you feel like you’re with a stranger. His neglect keeps you up at night, yet he doesn’t comfort you. The next day, he acts like nothing happened, making you feel like you’re overreacting.
As the saying goes, “No one wants to easily let go of someone they’ve loved for a long time. It’s not that love is gone, but realizing it’s time to let go.”
Jenny often stays in her own shell, lost in thoughts. Her relationship with her boyfriend feels like a drama from start to finish. They started in a long-distance setup, making basic support seem inadequate. Jenny wonders, “What am I even aiming for?”
One day, she confided in her close friends. One friend pointed out the obvious, “Maybe he just doesn’t want to give. With delivery services everywhere, he can’t even show a little effort?”
Jenny argued, “So I become the one who only takes in his eyes? It ends up looking like it’s all my fault, and he wants to break up because of me?”
Her friend sighed, “Sometimes I wonder if we are blind to choose such people. But in relationships, once you’re in deep, even if you know it’s wrong, breaking up still hurts.”
Jenny, voice trembling, admitted, “Yes, I always want to find someone better after a breakup. But as I grow older, finding the right person seems harder.”
Her friend comforted her, “Focus on loving nature, flowers, and yourself. Let go of trivial matters. Love yourself first; loving life is crucial.”
Jenny lifted her head, the fog in her mind clearing. She realized it’s time to let go of the draining relationship. It will hurt, but she’s determined to embrace a broader life. This time, she chooses to love herself first before embracing the beauty of the world, rather than drowning in exhausting emotions.
Unhealthy love can be draining. If you feel tormented in such a relationship, slam the brakes, say goodbye to the wrong person bravely. Some people won’t change.
He won’t transform into your dream partner despite countless forgiveness. When you no longer feel loved, there’s truly no love left. You might only hear, “This is who I am,” using personality as an excuse when the problem isn’t you.
Healthy love isn’t a drain. You don’t have to be glued together all the time. You should have space and privacy based on trust and understanding. Most of the time, you enjoy each other’s company, eager to know each other slowly, longing to spend a lifetime together.
Just like Jenny thought later on, if someone can give me that peace of mind, that special care and security, and I choose to be with him, don’t blame me. I once reached out to you, but you didn’t think I deserved that love.