Love is like a delicate flower, needing watering, nourishment, and mutual dedication. Without care, it will wither quickly.
In life, some people hang love on their lips, sweet-talking; some turn love into action, caring deeply; and some sink love into their hearts, single-mindedly…
Who is the one who truly loves you?
The expressions of a man’s deep love may vary, but the ways he shows his true heart are similar. Let’s judge whether he’s sincere or not through these three things.
He Will Care About Your Future
My friend, Emily, landed an internship at a big company after graduation, which was a hard-won opportunity for her as a non-traditional student.
Because of her hard work, her leader highly appreciated her and assigned her a crucial task.
She originally planned to finish the task at the company and then head home, but her boyfriend insisted she go to his place, even saying some harsh words.
Emily hesitated, but eventually compromised. When her boyfriend was playing games contentedly, she was frustrated because his computer configuration was insufficient to support her task.
A mature and loving man will take responsibility for anyone and anything. Of course, when he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he’ll treat you as a whole, not just your income or career achievements, but your spiritual fulfillment and whether you can gain top-notch emotions in love.
As I always say:
Love is indispensable, but it can only be an accelerator that drives us forward, not a stumbling block to our work or studies.
He Will Treat You Equally
In “If Running Is My Life,” Qin Feng deeply loved his wife, Cheng Anxin, but still shamelessly cheated on her with Chu Zhijuan.
No amount of words can justify his behavior, as he clearly showed that he didn’t love Anxin; otherwise, he wouldn’t have hurt her. He didn’t love Zhijuan either; otherwise, he wouldn’t have let her be ridiculed like a rat in a sewer.
The root of Qin Feng’s behavior lies in his failure to put his wife and mistress on an equal footing.
So, when facing his mother’s harsh criticism of Zhijuan, he could ask Zhijuan to ignore it.
In the end, Zhijuan’s words cut through Qin Feng’s excuses, revealing his hypocrisy.
She said, “I’m older than you, not as good-looking, and not as promising. Should I just sit there and be criticized by your family?”
“Sorry, since my mom passed away, I made up my mind—I’ll never forgive anyone’s mistakes just because they’re older. I won’t let someone who’s unrelated to me criticize me for the rest of my life. I’m not another Anxin; I’m myself, and I want to be myself.”
A man who truly loves you will use his entire being to defend your dignity, respect, and status, never watching you being humiliated without lifting a finger.
On the other hand, a selfish and love-lacking man will always prioritize himself and his family over you, thinking: “I can love you, and my family can give you a chance to enter our home, so you should be grateful.”
Will such love bring happiness?
A selfish man who can’t maintain a marriage usually has a violent temper, is extremely selfish, and never considers others’ feelings.
He Will Continuously Grow and Take Emotional Responsibility
No one is born a perfect lover; they need to continuously learn and grow in love, as long as they deeply love you.
Because of love, he won’t need you to nag or persuade him; instead, he’ll automatically and silently change himself.
His initial intention is to make love last and bring happiness throughout life.
Just like He Yichen in “The Interpreter,” when facing Zhao Mosheng, all his principles and persistence disappeared, and he would do anything for her smile.
A man who deeply loves you won’t need grand romantic gestures; he’ll continuously grow and change, with one goal—to make you happier and love warmer.
If love is just a feeling, it will quickly fade when faced with challenges, as we can easily get this feeling from different people. True love is not a feeling; it’s more a responsibility, a mutual sacrifice, and mutual achievement.