In relationships and marriage, the scariest thing to encounter is not betrayal or scum, but people who are adept at psychological control.
If you happen to meet someone with a strong desire for psychological control in this lifetime, you will likely be miserable and never truly happy. Even if you divorce, it’s often challenging to find happiness because the effects of the ex-partner’s psychological control don’t end with the relationship.
People skilled in psychological control have very distinct behavioral characteristics, including being domineering and always needing to be in control. They belittle and undermine their partners, destroying their confidence and making them feel guilty. They are adept at manipulating and brainwashing in a seemingly “logical” manner, often deflecting blame onto the other person.
They are experts in both cold wars and hot battles, with their behavior escalating to extreme levels to maintain control. After each extreme behavior, they may express “regret” and promise not to repeat it, but they never truly change.
Most importantly, they never acknowledge their psychological control or realize the pain and harm they cause to their partners.
If you unfortunately encounter such a person, your emotional and marital life will be filled with suffering. Even if the relationship ends, the pain may not go away because these individuals tend to cling onto their partners unless they find a replacement.
I have seen people suffering under such psychological control who are aware of their misery but struggle to change the situation. To address this, one must adjust and change their own character fundamentally, as this is the only real solution.
Those who exert psychological control are often practical and will escalate their methods until they achieve the desired effect. To resist this, one must have strong psychological resilience and bravery.
Dealing with psychological control is similar to handling domestic violence: one must firmly resist the initial attempts and never compromise. Otherwise, it could escalate into more severe forms of abuse. Psychological control is a form of mental violence that is often more subtle and varied than physical abuse, making it harder for victims to recognize.
Don’t let anyone control you psychologically. Stand up for yourself, resist manipulation, and seek help if needed. Your mental well-being is invaluable.