There’s always someone who’s an exception, accompanying you through the long years.
I’ve always agreed with this point of view: “Encountering a bad partner may be fate, but tolerating such behavior is entirely up to personal choice.” For women, encountering so-called “trashy guys” doesn’t mean they have a problem; the problem lies in whether they choose to continue tolerating such relationships.
Someone asked, “What’s the biggest threat to women?”
Someone replied, “It’s the ‘trashy guys’.”
Today, this type of person seems to have become an existence that many women try to avoid. Their presence seems to always leave a trail of broken-hearted women wherever they go
The Ex-Boyfriend’s Betrayal: The Wedding Was Cancelled!
My friend was supposed to get married next month, but one afternoon, she invited us to a KTV session to relax. In the private room, the flashing lights and music created a lively atmosphere. However, she, the supposed main character, was unusually quiet, sitting alone in the corner, drinking.
We noticed her abnormal behavior, exchanged glances, and walked over to her, trying to bring some joy. However, when we saw her tear-stained face, we were shocked and didn’t know what to do. I tentatively asked her what happened, and she burst into tears, overpowering the music.
We quickly comforted her and tried to understand what happened. It turned out that her fiancé’s ex-girlfriend had contacted her. Through chatting, she discovered that her fiancé would claim to go home every weekend but was actually accompanying his ex-girlfriend. When our friend confronted her fiancé, he admitted it and asked for another chance, claiming he had already broken up with his ex-girlfriend and only wanted to spend the rest of his life with her.
We were all shocked, unable to believe such a thing could happen to someone we knew. We all advised her to break up with this so-called “trashy guy.” In the end, her parents and the guy’s family had a falling out, and the wedding was cancelled.
Anti-Trash Advice
Is it my problem? Why do I always encounter such people!
Whenever it’s quiet at night, this sentence always pops up in my mind. My friend, with red and swollen eyes, asked me this question, filled with endless doubts and confusion. This makes me deeply feel that many girls, after encountering trashy guys, will question themselves, thinking the problem lies with themselves. But in reality, encountering trashy guys isn’t our problem or our fault.
In the world of emotions, we are all equal individuals who deserve respect and appreciation. If someone doesn’t respect you or appreciate you, no matter how beautiful they appear on the outside, they are empty inside. Such people, no matter what you do, are hard to change.
So, how can we avoid getting hurt from the start? How can we improve our ability to identify trashy guys? Here are three anti-trash tips to help you.
First, stick to your bottom line and principles. In relationships, we should have our own bottom line and principles, and honestly communicate them to our partner. Someone who loves you will respect your bottom line and principles, and won’t try to break them. On the contrary, if someone constantly challenges your bottom line and breaks your principles, they might not be suitable for you.
Second, stay away from men who belittle you. A person who truly loves you will affirm your value and appreciate your strengths. If someone constantly belittles you or makes you feel inferior, they might be using you or cheating on you. You need to be vigilant and stay away from such men.
Third, prioritize your own needs. In a romantic relationship, we need to learn to prioritize our feelings and needs. If you feel uncomfortable or unhappy, you need to bravely express yourself. Someone who loves you will understand and support you, and won’t make you feel helpless.
Finally, I want to say that we shouldn’t doubt ourselves because of one failure. Encountering trashy guys isn’t our fault, and we don’t need to feel ashamed. We need to believe in our own value and ability. We need to learn to protect ourselves and stay away from those who aren’t worthy of us. Only then can we find true happiness that belongs to us.
I hope every girl can have a beautiful romance and true love. Let’s work together, grow together, and move towards a better future.