No couple gets married with the initial purpose of getting a divorce.
But as time goes by, if the relationship can’t continue, separation becomes a common outcome.
So when do men start considering divorce? It’s not when life is tough and money is tight, but in these two scenarios.
Hard Work Goes Unappreciated by Women
A friend once told me that despite having a good life now, there was a period when he seriously considered divorcing his wife.
It wasn’t about shirking responsibilities or lack of love. It was about feeling powerless in the face of marriage, despite giving his all and making every effort, feeling unappreciated by his wife.
The man and his wife had been in a long-distance relationship.
When his wife had their second child, he couldn’t go home. He sent his mother to accompany his wife during her postpartum period, despite his busy work schedule. He would call his wife on time, chat with her, and hand over all his earnings to her.
But his wife was always unhappy, complaining that his absence made no difference whether he was there or not, and speaking ill of his mother.
Initially, he tried to comfort his wife, but over time, he grew numb and stopped trying. The two started a silent war.
The man said the terrible feelings at the time made him feel life was too hard, and divorce seemed like a relief.
In a marriage, two people’s lives are intertwined.
Everyone goes through low points, and mutual support is crucial. But if one person remains self-absorbed, disregarding the other’s feelings, it’s easy for the partner to give up on the marriage completely.
Unreliable Wife, Lost Confidence in Marriage
A close female friend, a career-driven woman, mature and calculated, made a critical mistake.
Despite being married, she focused solely on her career, neglecting her husband’s feelings.
On their anniversary, the husband planned activities in advance, waiting for his wife to finish work and celebrate together.
To his dismay, she forgot about their date entirely. Feeling neglected, he thought their relationship was just going through the motions.
Unexpectedly, when his friend faced a crisis at work and needed to pretend to be a loving couple, she suddenly treated him well.
The husband thought his wife was finally valuing him. Though a bit late for affection, he was happy until she revealed her true intentions, leaving him disappointed and angry, leading to a divorce proposal.
Marriage is a man’s desire for a home.
In marriage, men hope their wives fulfill their roles. It’s acceptable to slip up but not to an extreme.
When a woman fails to provide the value a man needs in a marriage, thoughts of divorce naturally arise.
Defining a relationship is an instant thing, but nurturing a marriage takes a lifetime.
Both parties need to protect a relationship for the emotions to flourish.